so a comment
from 'he who
was afraid to be named'..
got me thinking!
Do I blame the men
who have hurt me?
Do I hold them responsible
for my life?
loaded question.
to start;
I like my life!
It was not what I
dreamt
of..
nor, is it always picture perfect,
but I am very content!
I work hard
at all my roles...
and I am thankful
for the life I lead.
So, are they..
these men,
responsible?
yes and no..
without knowing them,
I am sure my path would
be different!
They have helped to shape
me...good and bad!
Do I blame them?
not really!
My first husband..
I understand
and believe that it takes
two people to end a marriage!
How you get there,
and the choices you make
in the process are individual..
but the marriage is between
both...
and the end,
belongs to each.
I know there were things
in my marriage,
that were not
the way my ex would want!
I lived the role
I believed in,
but not the one he desired.
I have owned that!
I have sought his forgiveness
for not hearing him..
or understanding his frustrations.
Did he hurt me?
yes. He really did.
Do I carry blame?
No!
I think him and I
have forgiven each other
for not being perfect..
and for not being ideal partners!
as for the other..
The one I left...
or fled..
do I blame?
a little!
and yet,
I hold myself
responsible
for making very poor choices.
I was mislead and
manipulated.
BUT, if I had been healthier,
taken longer to heal,
been further along in the process,
I would not have fallen
for the deception!
Therefore, I own that too!
So, in truth..
I remember realistically!
I own my part!
I acknowledge my role.
I place ownership back
where it belongs, in areas
I could not control..
and I learn!!
Blame is useless..
reflection invaluable!!
Indeed. Just caught up on the whole anonymous commenter thing. I had a guy who left a few negative comments (actually, they became increasingly nasty). Don't knw if yours was the same guy but he seems to roam around all bitter about women.
ReplyDeleteLove this post!!!
ReplyDeleteI second that AMEN!
ReplyDeleteI third it!
ReplyDeleteNever a truer word said.
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