Sunday, June 19, 2011

A holiday that no longer hurts....

It is fathers day!
A day that has been bittersweet...
the sweet comes from my father
I love dearly!!
the bitter from the hurt
from the loss of the father
of my own kids..
the loss to me,
not them!

however,
this year..
I realize
that even in this last year
so much has changed!
Last year I felt sad as the day approached...
this year?
peace!

It seems the more time
that passes,
the more I reconcile...
not just my marriage,
but who I was
and was not within it..
the more I understand
that where I am now,
is where I want to be!
The more I am able
to separate the father in my
children's life..
from the man
that was in mine...

so today..
I shall help my children
cook their father dinner!
I shall set an example
of honor..
I shall help them celebrate
and cherish their dad.
They will serve him dinner
within their home,
while I run off to coffee..
they shall love,
as always,
freely..

And for the first time...
I feel free
to honor and respect
the role;
their father plays..
without
the tinge of hurt attached!

It takes time...
but, it happens!

8 comments:

  1. Good for you Debbie, this is not only the right thing to do but also the healthy way to feel. God Bless you.....:-)Hugs

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  2. What a wonderful thing to do for them and him! Hope it all turns out wonderfully, since you just 'love' to cook! ;o)

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  3. bwhahaha Mamma has spoken..this is true..this could actually be a passive aggresive act of ill will...lol..actually I am using the ONE tried and true recipe I know!!!:-)!!

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  4. Very mature and respectful of you. After almost 10 years, I still can't do that for the father of my children. Maybe I need to grow up and take a page from your book...or in this case, blog.

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  5. sandra- each situation is different! While my divorce was very hurtful..my ex and I have stayed on good terms and he has always been a good dad. That makes a difference!

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  6. you are a big person to do that for him. kudos for moving along!



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  7. Good for you! Father's Day is usually just another day here, but this year, I found myself missing MY DAD and family, who were all celebrating together up north, so I made a big ol' pot of homemade meatballs and sauce like my Grammy used to make... not ideal on a 95 degree day, but it made me feel better! :)

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  8. and you didnt even put a laxative in the food? haha kidding...What a nice way to help the kids celebrate. Strong woman you are

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