Wednesday, October 27, 2010

'It's complicated'

So..
I am officially
'in a relationship'.
We see each other exclusively,
we spent time together when we can...
we smile alot!:)

It seems commitment
for me
happens in levels..
I can say
I will not date anyone else
but it took a while
to say
I was 'dating' a specific person vs 'just friends'.
But,
I got there!

Now,
we joke about Facebook!
I am certainly listed
as single!
At some point
I will take the plunge
and change
the status
to
'in a relationship'..
but,
sometimes
'its complicated' seems to fit more!
The relationship
is easy!
The juggling act is not!
We both have kids
and they come first!
Then there
are the other half
of our families;
the kids parents..
and our friends..
and extended families...
and our jobs
and our hobbies..

just
'in a relationship'
after a divorce does
not seem
quite adequate!
maybe
there should be
a choice
of
"in a relationship in which we balance several plates".

If truth me told....
I wait on a bigger reason!
I am still learning
to have faith
that today
will look like yesterday!
That this will
not fall apart
tomorrow...
I am working
on that part!
and when I get there..
or at least
get further
in the process
then I am today
I think Face book
will be the first
to know!

11 comments:

  1. I am happy for you. What ever or whom ever you choose, will be wonderful I am sure!

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  2. I like that. That definitely explains it better, doesn't it?

    P.S. He's hot. As a triathlete myself, I *drool* over those athletic cyclists! ;)

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  3. I'm in the same place. A little too worried about about another break up to entirely commit, but then if we were never going to commit again we should have got it right the first time around - which we didn't!

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  4. I have been there before. what a beautiful place. Mine did not work out but I think you have a good chance as you have a good head on your shoulders

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  5. It is definitely complicated. Congrats and Enjoy!

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  6. Good for you, I love your whole attitude on this, kids first! You will have your time as well, you deserve it.......:-) Hugs

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  7. Yes it is complicated and exciting and wonderful all wrapped up together. How fabulous for you both!
    Enjoy!
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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  8. Congrats!!! I agree, dating and relationships for a divorced parent can be very complicated. I have my own complicated things going on right now. Have fun!!

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  9. I remember when a guy I had started seeing changed his relationship status from "single" to "it's complicated." I wasn't sure I liked that too much. But my relationship status of the past three years would be "it's complicated" so I decline to list a status at all.

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