I am so tired...but for 2 days something has been on my mind..the age old war between working moms and stay at home moms! Which is really the harder job?? and you know what I now know????? BOTH!!!!!
I was a stay at home (homeschooling) mom for 11 years! I loved it but I got so stressed out sometimes! I knew that being home all day with my children had to be the hardest, albeit, most fulfilling thing I had ever done! Even Oprah agrees!! (OK ignore that!:) ) Then I went to work outside the home! I remembered fondly my days of cuddling on the couch, the freedom of my schedule, the relaxed pace of my days.....until I had 2 days at home with the kids, due to illness! MY house was a WRECK. I had to make several meals, do dishes several times, maintain order in the midst of forts being built, puzzles put together and crayons strewn throughout out the house..and I remembered what it was really like!! YES, there were wonderful moments but also really hard ones! And the same goes for my new role as working mom. YES , when I leave the house it will be in the same state when I return! I am only home for 2 meals a day, much less dishes. The afternoons do not leave as much free time to completely demolish the house, and my work brings me in contact with people and gives me the opportunity to make new friends and be someone other then mom. BUT my pace is frantic. We are all up and out the door early in the morning. After a day at work, I now must find time to do all the things that maintaining a home requires! Getting the kids ready for their next school day takes a good portion of the afternoon. Preparing for my work day takes time also, and of course, there is always the wish that I had more time with my children!.. So its hectic and hard! But it is also rewarding in its own way!
So what I have learnt is that so much time is spent comparing the different roles mothers have! And yet at there core both are draining, both are rewarding and underneath the role we are all part of the same journey with the same hearts for our children, the same hurts and fears! We might live out our lives differently on the surface but isn't it whats beneath the surface that counts?
If we could walk a mile in each others shoes..we may come away with a renewed respect! We may also come away deeply grateful for the life we lead, whichever role that is!