strange side effect of being single..

I was having drinks with a friend tonight...
rehashing the whole sordid story..
(we have been out of touch for , um, like 3 years..)
Anyway, i remembered something I promised myself I would never forget.
It was something i did not expect and was completely unprepared for
when finding myself single first go round...

and that was..
the way my 'married' friends treated me around their husbands.
As if..all of a sudden I would become a flirty, loose, throw myself at any breathing man; woman...
now, that i was no longer married!

If I wasn't so offended I would have laughed
and now I am not so offended so I do laugh.

I am not sure they meant to do it...
and certainly it was not all my friends...
but most certainly i was no longer ' as safe' as I was before....

Tonight i remembered and hope not to forget again...
because at the time I thought
" why didn't anyone warn me?"

I have always wondered if I had known more of what to expect..
would I have been better prepared?
or when you are thrown for a loop do you throw the manual out anyway??

I might never know for me...
but at least i might remember in case anyone ever asks.....