after all the heartache
and all the hurt...
When you divorce with children
there is still a connection through the kids!
IF you can nurture that,
EVEN though you WILL disagree...
there are moments it will SO matter!
My ex and I had a moment that mattered today!
My 7th grade son..
who is a straight A student,
never in trouble..
quiet to a fault..
was pushed too far by bullies on the bus!
HIS response (non-physical) resulted in the bully
punching him several times in the face!
He got off the bus with a swollen face,
tears of anger running from his eyes,
his sisters were hysterical.
and all he could say was;
they insulted my family! I can't let anyone do that!
I, needless to say,
was ready to run after the bus and drag each child off
and interrogate them myself!!
I was livid!
a pacifist in every area EXCEPT when it comes to my kids!!
My son took responsibility for his part!
He owned his reaction!
and understood the response!
I am a mom..I could just hold him while we both cried!
The guilt of my life overwhelming me..
I have to put him on that bus
so I can go to work..
it kills me in this moment!!
it grieves my soul to watch him hurt!!
I called his dad!
Who came immediately!
and together we sat with our child.
We encouraged him, supported him and talked through the lessons.
We each brought an aspect that was vital.
I brought the soft..he brought the needed..
and my son was surrounded by support!
We are not sure how this will play out!
Will he pay a price for his reaction?
we do not know!
BUT what he does know is that his parents are on his side..
We will stand by him as he faces the consequences,
we shall walk beside him no matter what comes..
we gave up on our fight for each other..
but we shall never give up on our fight for him!
This was a moment that it mattered...