Tuesday, April 6, 2010

just like that..a sad shift in focus..

so yesterday
I was wondering where to start.
Overwhelmed with all to do,
not enough time..
way to many plans...

And then,
one of our cats..
was hit by a car and killed.
and the focus shifted!
just like that!!
Nothing on my list got done,
as I comforted my children.
They were beautiful and compassionate
in their heart break.
My son stepped into his young mans role;
digging the grave,
hammering the little cross...
the girls brought flowers and painted rocks..
all cried.
Its very sad.

As their mom
I know that this is a slice of life!
It hurts and more hurt with follow.
As children
they cannot imagine much worse.

Its these moments
that leave me as a mom..
how do you comfort them
and make it OK?

I did all I knew,
I listened,
I held them,
I allowed them space,
and I sat outside with my youngest
when she decided she was going to keep
a vigil
by the grave.

I do know that for that space of time,
nothing else
that needed to be done
was done!

and maybe theres the answer..
fall into place
when you recognise
the moments
that supersede
the plans and priorities
you thought you had..
priorities shift
and move like quick sand..
and sometimes they become
the moment
that can be ignored
but will forever leave regret
if its not taken and lived to its fullest.

The moment that lives forever in your heart..
as opposed to the moment that fades and dissapears
and merges into all the others.


  1. Wow, I am quite sorry to hear that. :(

  2. Grief is a hard thing for anyone of any age to process. Take time with it, recognize whatever emotions surface and pay respect to all parties in the process. It can be a sad time, but also a time of deepening of emotional connectedness. Spread the hugs thick. They really do help to heal the world.

  3. What a beautiful post! Sending love and hugs...

  4. So sorry to hear about your family pet. They do become a big part of the family. It is so great that you were able to be there for them. You got your priorities right lady! :) I'm proud of you!

  5. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Your children are so lucky to have such a wonderful and caring mother!!! We will keep you all in our prayers!!

  6. What a beautiful family. We have some furry family members as well, one of whom is 12. Not looking forward to the inevitable, but it does allow us an opportunity to teach the kids about appreciating today.

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  7. I am so sorry about the loss of you sweet kitty. That is tough for you and for the kids.
    Hugging you all

  8. I am so sorry. I dread having to go through this with my daughter. You handled it perfectly!

  9. I am very sorry about the little pet kitten.
    You did comfort the children and you gave the pet a lovely funeral for the sake of the children.
    You did all you could and were there for them. They will remember that.
    Excellent Mum ....... and a very touching post.

    Nuts in May

  10. awww I just commented on the last post... darn
    hugs to you all....

  11. Sorry to hear. Very sad. But eloquent post.

  12. Dear Debbie,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your family pet. How sad for your sweet children. Hugs to you all)))))))))))))))

  13. Aw, that's sad. We had a funeral last year for a gerbil - my son built it a little casket and cut and hammered a little funeral mask for the creature, and cried at the gravesite. I think those grieving rituals are important.

  14. thanks for all the kind and encouraging words!!