Thursday, April 29, 2010

the rules keep changing...

I am feeling
a little more ready
then I felt before...
as I grow and evolve,
as I begin to unfurl the wings
I finally seemed to have found..
I am feeling more open and receptive
to the next stage of this new life I live..
yes, *gasp* dating!

But, heres the problem..
(OK so I find lots of problems
with this subject)
Here is ONE problem;
the rules have changed but I have not.
I don't call boys..:)
OK..I call them AFTER we have a relationship!
(and I know this based on the WHOLE 2 relationships
I have had! ha!)
But, I know I want to be the lady!
I know I want to be called and asked out!
I know I want a little more tradition
then a text..
or fax..
or even email.

And yet,
in reading blogs
and watching single folks around,
I see that in the 17 plus years
I spent married
(albeit it to two different men)
dating has changed.
Men seem to like woman who take the initiative,
who know what they want..

Here's the thing;
I have come a long way!
I have reached a place
that I know who I am,
what I desire
and who I aspire to be.
and I know this...
I will wait as long as it takes
to bump into 'tradition'
and some one old fashioned enough
to want to ask,
and woo...
yup I said woo:)!!

until then..
I feel excited to be in this place
that says
whatever shall come will come,
and I feel ready to face
whatever that might be!


  1. Whatever feels right...that's what should be. It doesn't mean you limit yourself, it doesn't mean you aren't flexible, it just means you have certain standards that are cohesive with your integrity and values. It's all ok. And actually, email is fantastic. Or a text message...somehow less personal so it doesn't have the same "I'm calling a boy" thing that we were discouraged from doing.

    I am about as liberated as they come but when my husband and I were dating..he did all the calling...but I hate calling anybody, ever, so that might have had something to do with it :)

    Ready set go...

  2. Sounds like someone is ready to move on....and yes the rules have changed but you will adjust and most of the men will be around your age (well I don't know this and its not my business) they will know how to treat a lady of your age group......listen to me, you think I knew what I was talking about, trust me I don't but I am excited for you and this new time in your life.........:-) Hugs

  3. Yes times have changed! But you have come to a wonderful place in your life of knowing who you are and what you want and don't want. So, no reason to change now. Just follow your heart and things will work out just fine.
    What you want is a real "man"!!
    Hugs to you

  4. Agree, wait for what you are looking for and don't 'settle' for what seems to be happening now. There are guys out there with the same mind set as you. Wait, God will send him your way.

  5. I felt exactly the same way you did! I wanted, needed, to be pursued and wooed. And I'm very glad that I held out for a man who was and is an excellent woo-er! ;) You don't have to be like everyone, or anyone else, to find love. You just have to be beautiful, wonderful YOU!

  6. That is a good place to be in for you! I am contemplating the whole dating thing right now too and it has changed in just the last couple of years. Or, maybe I have changed! :)

  7. You'll figure out what works for you. I say that, and I'm still trying to figure out what works for me!